I forgive everyone, including myself

There is a Buddhist proverb that says, “when the student is ready the teacher will appear.”  It’s a true story.  I’ve been on a quest of sorts since about 2008.   Around that time I was guided to Eckhart Tolle, Marianne Williamson, Reverend Michael Bernard Beckwith, Pema Chodron, Louise Hay and masterful spiritual teacher, Dr. Wayne Dyer.   His teachings were a lighthouse for me at a time when things were quite messy.  He has been a significant part of my personal journey, offering me a new way of understanding life and an opportunity to shift my perspective.

Yesterday, I heard that this exquisite teacher, writer, poet and mystic passed away peacefully in his sleep. In honor of his memory, I’ve collected some of my favorite Wayne Dyer lessons. You may notice a theme in the quotes I’ve chosen here.  That’s because I am still a student of his, and forgiveness does not come easily for me. I’m working on it.  These are my cliff notes.  My wish is that you find value and comfort in these words of wisdom and remember, your intentions create your reality.  xo, Dre

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“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

I forgive myself, and then I move on. You can sit there forever, lamenting about how bad you've been, feeling guilty until you die, and not one tiny slice of that guilt will do anything to change a single thing in the past. — Wayne Dyer: I forgive myself, and then I move on. You can sit there forever, lamenting about how bad you've been, feeling guilty until you die, and not one tiny slice of that guilt will do anything to change a single thing in the past. — Wayne Dyer

“Thoroughly unprepared we take the step into the afternoon of life. Worse still we take this step with the false presupposition that our truths and our ideals will serve us as hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program on life’s morning. For what was great in the morning will be little at evening and what in the morning was true in the evening will become a lie.”- Dr. Wayne Dyer

“Without exception, begin every day of your life with gratitude. As you look in the mirror, say, “Thank you, God, for life, for my body, for my family and loved ones, for this day, and for the opportunity to be of service. Thank you, thank you, thank you!” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

If you don't make peace with your past it will keep showing up in your present. — Wayne Dyer: If you don't make peace with your past it will keep showing up in your present. — Wayne Dyer

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“We are not our bodies, our possessions or our careers.  What we are is DIVINE LOVE, and that is INFINITE.  ~Dr. Wayne Dyer 1940 – 2015

2011 Life Lesson List

It was a trying year for Dre. I walked around for most of it feeling like I just got kicked in the gut. Mostly because I had been. But it wasn’t all bad. Some of the lessons, tricks and treats for me this year came in places I went, people I met, the dear souls who soldiered right along with me, and the feelings that delivered me. Here is my Life Lesson List for 2011:

1) Passion

2) Compassion

3) Abandonment

4) Stillness

5) New Friendship

I am so blessed to have made so many new friends this  year…

6) Doctors, patients and patience

7) Solitude

8) San Francisco

9) The Dalai Lama

“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck” ~ Dalai Lama

10) Cancer

11) Chemotherapy

12) A Hero

13) Loss

14) Age

15) Sadness

16) Betrayal

17) Horrible Bosses

18) Death

19) A beautiful Russian

20) Agape- a spiritual community

21) The Artists Way and Vision Quest- A Creative Community

22) New York

I took this photo in April in Central Park…

23) Rumi

“It’s good to leave each day behind,
Like flowing water, free of sadness.
Yesterday is gone and its tale told.
Today new seeds are growing.”
~ Rumi

24) Lost Love

25) Movie: Midnight in Paris

Ernest Hemingway: No subject is terrible if the story is true, if the prose is clean and honest, and if it affirms courage and grace under pressure.

Gertrude Stein: You have a clear and lovely voice.  Don’t be such a defeatist.

26) Movie: Beginners

Oliver:   You can’t be ugly.  Except to people who don’t understand.

27) Movie: 50/50

Alan: You want a macaroon?
Adam: Oh, thanks I’m alright.
Alan: There’s weed in ’em…

28) Allowing myself to cry… buckets!

29) Pema Chodron

“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.” ~ Pema Chodron

I read her book “Taking the Leap” twice this year…

30) Self Discovery

31) Love

32) Art, writing and bravery

Julia Cameron’s book “The Artist’s Way” and Kelly Morgan’s Artist’s Way class in Los Angeles, was one of the greatest gifts I gave myself this year…

33) A poet and a couple Bloggers (you guys can fight over which one of you is the ninja)

34) Yelp Friends

35) Therapy

36) Runyon Canyon

37) Silverlake

38) Long Beach

39) Koreatown

40) Hollywood

My view.  “One always begins to forgive a place as soon as it’s left behind.” ~ Charles Dickens

41) Downtown LA

to live and die in L.A…

42) Steve Jobs

“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me.  Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful, that’s what matters to me.” ~Steve Jobs
43) Oprah (the finale season!)

“Nobody but you is responsible for your life. It doesn’t matter what your mama did; it doesn’t matter what your daddy didn’t do. You are responsible for your life. … You are responsible for the energy that you create for yourself, and you’re responsible for the energy that you bring to others.’Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space.'” ~Oprah on her last show

44) A lion

45) Adele 21

46) Family

I encourage you to make a list of people, places, words, and things that come to mind when you remember this year as it comes to an end. Then, and this is the hard part; Be Grateful. Be grateful for the joy and sorrow that came to you this year, for everything comes and goes in its own right time. The joys and the pains are always on time. Not when you’re ready, but when they will serve you best. Whatever challenge you faced this year is an expansion for your soul. It came to push you out and take you to the next stage of your unfolding. The worse it was, the deeper you are as a person. At least that’s what my therapist says. Now that you have been through that challenge, just trust that because of it, you now feel more, you empathize more; you can forgive and understand more readily. You aren’t weaker, you’re stronger. Experienced. You survived. As did I.  So dear reader, be Grateful. And carry on…

I hope you had a beautiful year! I wish you an even better 2012.

Tell me what’s on your list! Give me 10! C’mon!